At the Mill Valley Wedding Fair yesterday, I met dozens of lovestruck brides to be, shopping for inspiration for their special day ahead. Whether they were young, toned and athletic, or already showing gray, these future brides shared a desire to create a collective experience of their love at the upcoming ceremonies.
This made me think how so much of relationship love centers on the nurturing experience of day to day ritual. Eating becomes a bonding experience, and a pleasure one when good food is shared on a set table. In modern life we often forgo this formality except when the special occasions of life remind us to stride forward with more grace. For example, to set a table with welcoming appeal for wedding guests.
I am a bit jealous of these ladies but there is a lesson here. As St. Valentine's Day approaches, think about how to greet your intimate partner, whether you are both hetero or "other", with the endearing invitation of a set table. This becomes your stage for the treats you plan to offer on your menu for this special dinner date. Table linens from France, with all their color and cheer, say "je t'aime cheri," in a way that words alone cannot communicate. Add flowers, candles, napkins and silver, and your evening will become very special indeed. And by the way, why wait for St. Valentine's Day night? Try it whenever your love life needs a little extra spice. Pourquoi pas? Try it.
Morgana was born in Les Lilas, France, and recently finished her degree from UC San Diego . She and her mother live in San Rafael, CA.